Family Pressure?

Delora Struzzi: It could actually affect him in the opposite direction. If he feels too pressured to propose it may take him longer. He wants to do it on his time and if he thinks he's being told what to do, he may hesitate.They have good intentions I guess, I would tell them to back off. The more attention they draw to it, the more it may cause him to drag his feet.

Joan Stavropoulos: Sweet time? Make sure that you know you deserve someone that values marriage and commitment. Getting married should be on the top of the list of the guy you love. Why would you want to "settle" for a man that needs to be swayed by anyone.Think seriously about where this is leading. You deserve to be a wife, not a long term girlfriend.

Curtis Josef: my experiences has been that it has been negative. The couple should decide on their own what is best for them and when. Family pressure will only lead to arguments about what his family thinks and what her family thinks and next thin! g you know there is a break up or divorce at a later time because of the pressure. Once your married there is the pressure to have children, buy a house and it goes on and on.

Coralie Goldsberry: Sure peer pressure and family pressure has an effect!

Gertrude Darke: Family support means a lot. However you want him to ask you because he sees in his minds eye a future for the both of you. Being together for years does not qualify or equals marriage proposal. But love honesty, respect and shared ideals does.

Bernie Cerra: You do NOT want to set a precedent with his family of their pressuring you.Then they'll think they have the right to decide when to have kids, and how to raise them, and in a few years you'll be posting questions about how to get the in-laws off your back.This is between the two of you.You say you both know you're going to get married; is that because you've talked about it?Have you asked him about this? Does he have good reason to wait? (If ! he's in college, for instance, it makes more sense to wait unt! il you're both financially stable.)As others have said, pressure from people to do something is often counter-productive.People will often resist doing something they want to do, just because other people seem to think they have the right to make their decisions for them.If what you're really saying is that the family IS pressuring him, then try to get them to stop. Tell them you'll marry when you're both ready.Showing him that you are a united front with him will help him see that you and his family aren't going to be ganging up on him for the rest of his life.If he fears this, it would make him hesitate to put himself in that position.The more I read your question, the more ambiguous I find it.Are you asking whether you should get the family to pile on, or are you asking if their piling on is actually preventing him from committing?Anyway, it's a common myth these days that people can control others.You can't force people to do things....Show more

Buddy Ardd: Someti! mes too much pressure will cause the opposite of a desired effect (I.E. you want your boyfriend to propose). By your question, can we safely assume that the subject of marriage comes up quite often at family gatherings and at your home (you are both living together, right)? Give him some space...and the 'occasional' hint. If nothing changes, then it is time for you to reevaluate your priorities and your relationship with him. Good Luck!...Show more